Message from a Reformed "But"-Head

What's the most dangerous word in the English language?

"But."

As in...
"My life is wonderful, but..."
"Things would be great, but..."
"I'd love to, but..."

Trust me, I know. I used to be the biggest "But"-Head on the planet. Nothing was as good as it could be, therefore everything was bad.

What a waste of a life!

I've been thinking about this today because I'm going to be coaching a team member later, and I think she may be a bit of a "But"-Head as well. And as I was thinking about what I might say to her, I realized that, in fact, I've been wandering down "But" Lane myself this morning. You see, I have a ton of writing work to do, "but" then there's all this coaching claiming my time, too. Life would be just perfect if only I could do whatever I want, whenever I want. "But" I can't.

So excuse me for a moment while I reframe things. My life is pretty darn fabulous. I love writing and I'm blessed to be able to do it as one of my careers. I love my other career, too - helping people to grow into their power through the magic of marketing, and helping people to improve their health through the science of nutrition. It's day 2 of a messy snowstorm outside and I get to sit in my cozy, warm house and "commute" from bedroom to office in a minute or less, no foul-weather gear required. Ooh, I'm smiling now. Turns out life is perfect already. AND it's going to be a great day.

Questions? Fabulous!

Some network marketers don't like people who ask questions. They'd prefer the kind of prospect who will say "yes" instantly - or "no" semi-instantly - to the kind who wants to know Why this? and Why that?

Now, I'm not saying I'll humor you if you decide to channel your inner three-year-old and respond "Why?" every time I finish a sentence. But if you're approaching your decision thoughtfully - if you've done your homework and there are things you honestly want to know more about - fabulous!

Undoubtedly some of the reason I love questions so much is that the more you know about our company, the more you'll like us. So I don't have anything to fear from people who do their due diligence. Bring it on!

But I think the biggest reason I love people who ask thoughtful questions is that I can tell they're taking our interaction - and the business opportunity - seriously. And if you care enough about it to spend all that time digging up research before you join my business, you're going to set the world on fire once you become my partner and start telling other people about this stuff.

And that's a wonderful thing, isn't it?

My Life as "Groundhog Day"

Remember the movie Groundhog Day? Very funny movie - Bill Murray keeps living the same day over and over again. That's the definition of insanity, right? When you keep doing the same things over and over, expecting to have different results.

For those of you who haven't seen the movie, consider this a spoiler alert. (But honestly, it was released in 1993 - you've had 17 years to get around to it.) As the day keeps repeating itself, first Bill Murray's character tries to use his knowledge of what's going to happen for his personal gain. But then he realizes that instead he can use it to help people. Helping people. It makes him a better person, it makes the world around him a better place, and it finally helps him break the cycle that has him repeating the same day over and over.

In the past few years as I've taken the journey described intermittently in this blog, I've learned the same lesson. It's not about the ingredients in our nutritional cleansing product. It's not about how much weight I've managed to keep off, or how much extra income I've brought in. It's about how many people can I help today? And how can I keep helping them tomorrow?

I'm building a strong business, yes. But most important to me is that I'm building it with people who share my values. People who also want to help others. If you're one of them, check out the video on the left there, tell me who you are and we can talk - or email - and let me see how I can help you.